True friend and Bonding

With respect the current political atmosphere around the country at this present time, I will therefore like to speak on politics. Lolz , did you fall for that? I was just joking. Now on a serious note.

Just about, some hours ago speaking with my very good pal, he told a story that actually ignited a desire to communicate some very profound truths in a special way. So as not to get a copyright suit from my friend, I will tell the story from a different angle.

The Akejus is a small family that lives in the southern part of Nigeria, Ibadan to be precise, and lived in an area inhabited by middle class citizens (if you are from Ib city you would have gotten the picture), they have three children, Teni 5, Moyo 7, and Femi 10. And they had Uncle B (as was normally called by the children) who lived with them and Femi loved him a lot, more than the rest of the kids. At that time, Femi spent time with uncle B and they played, he talked to him and uncle B really got excited and felt like he was just part of the family. Although he was adopted by the family when he was young, Femi's love and care never made him feel like an outcast. Femi showered on him liquid love and his younger sisters wondered what he really saw in him that made him just so fond of him.

Not until some events began to unfold. Teni reported to her Dad on a particular day that, uncle B had injured her intentionally and Femi opposed it saying uncle B will never do such a thing, he didn't need him to speak for himself but even though facts pointed otherwise, he still held onto their friendship and was bent on defending him no matter what. The Dad took notice of that incident but took no drastic action and time and time again, Moyo and Teni reported uncle B and since he couldn't defend himself none of what Femi said was heeded to and for his children safety, Mr Akeju got uncle B arrested on the charge that he was a threat to his little girls and Femi even though he (Femi) Claimed he (uncle B) was his best friend. Isn't it unusual that uncle B has been speechless concerning this issue when his life and reputation was at stake? Well its obvious that uncle can't talk , did you just ask why?
Oh oh oh!!! Did I forget to tell you that uncle B is actually a Dog. No? My bad, Its actually a dog, Bruno by name and the kids called him uncle B. You get the gist? So he was arrested to be killed on the ground that the girls had reported it been aggressive on several occasions and consequently biting them not knowing that it was actually playing with them.

Mr Akeju made sure that Femi was in school when he was going to carry out this plan to get rid of the dog to avoid any unnecessary drama and when Femi got back not knowing what had transpired he asked about the dog's whereabout all to no avail. The following morning Femi woke up to tell his parents that he knew what happened without been told. You see, this boy claimed he saw Bruno in his dream and it told him he had pain in its leg hence signifying that it had been killed. Even without the natural knowledge of the child his bonding with this creature was so strong that he knew that there was a challenge and that Bruno had been killed without him being told. If that is not bonding, then tell me what it is.

I am majorly speaking on friendship and commitment in friendship, but that story just kinda inspires the writer in me cos I see a lot of what people call friendship, which are just peripheral I.e. on the surface without any genuine bond or commitment whatsoever to each other. Friends who care less about how you are doing, a lot of friendships today are too shallow, surface and dry. I believe that commitment is the life wire of true godly friendship. God is for bonding in friendship when it come to the soul (I don't mean soul mate or ungodly bonding with convents) I mean a kind of friendship in which both parties are down together in whatever comes the way of one of the friends, sharing burdens, happy times and sad times, not just friends with a parasitic mentality of always taking but never giving, that is no friend but a pest. I always say this, friendship is a two-way street.

More about bonding; do you remember David and Jonathan? (I don't mean Ebele) lolz, dnt mind me. Those two friends in the bible, the bible said "Jonathan loved David as his own soul" (1 Samuel 18:3) , again if that's not real bonding what then is it? I so much believe that friendships are major foundation walls on which a great edifice of success in life is erected by which we cannot reach our place of destiny. Friendship on the surface does no one any good so that's why I believe that we ought to make friends that will make us, add to us, bond genuinely with us and go the distance with us in life.

Today, I urge you, if you have no such friend take a step to make a friend by God's leading so as not to choose wrongly, and when you find that one you can call a friend, bond with such and be true. And on a final note, just in case you have not known the ultimate friend i.e. Jesus, cos in him we see what true friendship is when he gave his life for his friends. That is some wonderful display of commitment don't you think? Experience the apex of friendships today, take that bold step to accept him and above all... Be a friend yourself and learn to bond with someone today in love.


Note* I didn't discuss everything about bonding, friendship and its principles, so I will gladly answer questions you might have concerning the subject matter.