You can Trust again

One of the Statements I heard constantly while growing up as a boy in a society full of many opinionated individuals and sects was; "Never trust anybody not even your family members". If y'all will be honest, i'm sure you still have a residue of that idea either in your consciousness of your subconscious.

How many of you remember " This life", a TV drama series produced by Wale Adenuga which I believe was or is (the series still exist) channeled at making people know of the prevailing happenings around us and passes a couple of moral lessons. If you grew up in the part of the world that I did, then you should have come across this TV series if you have a TV set at home *smiles*. Why did I mention this? Well, you will agree with me that at the beginning of the series when its been shown on TV, there is a short clip that features a boy and his Old Dad. I'm sure you know what transpired between the lad and his Dad and he (the Dad) made this statement that just keeps ringing in my head as I write;

"Never Trust anybody not even me, your father"

As short as that statement is and even as harmless as it might seem, I tell you this, it goes a long way in affecting the perception of individuals in the society and how folks see people around them. In fact I believe statements like that make cynics out of people than we could ever imagine. Do you know who Cynics are? In simple terms, they are people whose perception of other people and their gestures towards them are mainly negative. Basically, they are pessimists and most of them never really go far in life cos you need people to become successful and how can you work with people if you don't just trust anybody. No isolated island thrives well.
Well, you might say you need God to be a success but the last time I checked God is a Spirit and he won't be the one working with you physically and if you don't trust anyone, the people he will bring into your life will find difficult helping you because of your trust issues.

A while back, I was talking to a colleague of mine and I asked if she trusts anyone and she said she doesn't, she was like "I don't even trust myself so why should I trust anybody?" So I asked her a simple question, "Do you trust God" then she gave me a shocking answer, she said "Yes I do" I found that really ironic cos how can you say you trust God when you don't trust anyone. The question is, have you even seen God before? No one has seen him before and yet you claim to trust someone you haven't met before and people you see daily you don't trust them at all. Its very funny cos i'm sure someone told you about God and you believed him and you trust God but you don't trust the person that told you about him. You lost me there, I really don't get the morale behind that school of thought.

What i'm I saying in essence, a lot of people have betrayed us in the past but that doesn't give us a ground to suspect everyone and never trust again. God whom we claim to trust has been betrayed before, Adam which the bible calls the first Adam betrayed God yet God showed he was willing to trust by birthing the second Adam .i.e. Jesus and this time he wasn't betrayed. I really want you to consider this and rethink your decision to trust no one cos without trust, you can't run any good relationship at any level, be it basic friendship, business or marital relationships....

Do you know that Trust is a burden? I mean to a responsible person, when someone says 'I trust you' you know that you have to do whatever it takes not to screw up'. I know for one thing that when I am trusted by a person, it means I have to remain trusted and not betray it and this will involve being sincere, but when I know you don't trust me, I owe you no dedication to be committed so I can decide to screw up at least , I won't lose cos u didn't trust me from onset.

I found out that most people who don't trust people are most times not trustworthy themselves, quote me anywhere, most of them have hurt people too in the past and are just scared of karma but I tell you, you can repent today and become a trust worthy fellow and ultimately make the decision to observe people around you without suspicion and once you see people who are true, trust them and stop being a Cop.


                               @CodedinChrist

Be a Man, True Masculinity.

Truth is heavy, only few MEN carry it
                  - Jewish proverb 

This very moment as I write, a young boy in his prime somewhere in that jungle they call 'the hood' in the black community just pulled the trigger without a second thought, the other dude he just dropped is a member of a rival gang and apparently he got shot due to a beef that wasn't even personal, this cat is high on dope.

Down town Malina,Philippines, a young girl has just been raped by a guy on the next street from where she lives, she got a blow to the head and the guy threatened to stab her if she made any sound even though she was barely conscious as a result of the blow. she got raped while coming back from her evening class, walking in the dark through a neighborhood full of thugs. that's tragic...

Lagos, Nigeria, 21:00 GMT+1, right in a dirty neighborhood In the main land, a guy just got stabbed while struggling with another dude who apparently wanted to collect his bag containing his monthly pay. I guess the guy who got stabbed resisted the robber and got stabbed while attempting to fight back not knowing that this dude has been long in the business of robbing folks. Fast forward a bit and you will see that the money this dude just stole is being spent to buy weed and alcohol, tonight he's going to drink himself to stupor.

Now this three crimes all have something in common, can you tell me what it is? They were all committed by guys with sagging pants. Lolz, just joking. They were all committed by guys who lived in poor communities of the world? guys who are in their prime? guys who are thugs? Right guesses but the most important point is, they were committed by guys who had no father figure while growing up. I can be poor, living in a morally deficient society but with a responsible parent, I have high chances of turning out well. That aside , let me get into my real gist

He isn't a Man because he is Tall, Dark and Handsome (TDH), he isn't a Man also because he has a rod and two balls dangling between his legs, he isn't a Man because he has a broad chest and long beards, he isn't a Man because he has a baritone voice and sweeps every lady off her feet when he speaks. Then what is being a Man? Simple put being a Man or True Masculinity is Responsibility.

Over the past few years of living on this Terra firma, I have seen more boys than Men, guys who say things like "When I get money, I will just arrange babes and enjoy my life" well, I happen to be a fun loving guy too but the problem is the context in which "Fun" is used. I call something healthy fun, I mean a kind of fun that doesn't affect you or the persons around you negatively. I digressed a bit there, but what i'm trying to say is; Manhood is greatly displayed by responsibility, and irresponsibility i'm afraid has been more prevalent in the male circles all over the world. Ranging from folks who won't commit themselves to any lady in holy matrimony but wants children (baby Mama) to guys who will get a lady pregnant and take to their heels or some dudes who just wants meaningless sex, just to point this out, there is no such thing as meaningless sex, cos it is to you guys that sex is meaningless but to the lady, her emotions will be invested into it, ladies i'm I right? I guess I got a response there.

In all my considerations, I see that a boy primarily isn't only the little kid in primary one who carries a lunch box to school, but a boy can be a guy who goes to work in his own ride and carries a brief case to work even though he is 30years old. I have seen Men at 20 and boys at 40 and the distinguishing factor most times is the mind set. A mind set of irresponsibility for your choices, your mistakes, your actions, your words... Name it, makes a boy out of you. Some girls have been so deceived that age and dressing makes a Man, but nothing could he further from the truth, believe me ladies, the external doesn't make a Man.

He has money, he has a job, he will be 30 next month but he just always crave for sex like a dog n can't control his temper, can't treat a lady right, doesn't have goals set for his life, has no regard for God or authorities. He is definitely a boy trust me, I don't care about his age. As touching sex, look, True Manhood is determined by the ability to delay gratification. Take that to the bank and keep it babe and guys store that reality in your innermost being. If you can't control your sexual urges, and appetite as a guy, you need a diaper cos I am just sick and tired of guys taking advantage of the fragile emotions of ladies out there and getting them pregnant and in their irresponsibility they run away and live the poor girl to fend for herself and raise a child, those children end up becoming the above stories especially the males amongst them cos no one ever taught them to be a Man. I thank God my Dad is a Man and wasn't a boy when he married my Mom, today he has raised himself some fine man, though i'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I see responsible in that man and I have pattern my life after that.

I can go on and on but let's draw the cottons on this one by saying, dudes out there, even though you may be a victim of an irresponsible father, that is the choice of an individual moral agent but you have the chance to get responsible today, get a life, know your purpose, when its time, find that woman, get married for real and stay committed to her and your children cos the true legacy any man can leave for his children is a life lived responsibly in the fear of God.

*The discussion still continues....


                               @CodedinChrist.

Do it before you Teach it

Act 1:1 The former treatise have I made, O Theophilus, of all that Jesus began both Do and TEACH...

Perhaps, one of the major temptations faced by a lot of young Christians of today (myself Inclusive) is teaching what you yourself have not love's out as ur own reality. Its no doubt that evidences from the scriptures shows that we are undoubtedly in the last days and according to d Daniel 12:4 ...knowledge shall be increased. Many consider the end time as all negative but my optimism won't let me. Indeed a lot of knowledge as been seen on display amongst young folks particularly in the areas of scriptural understanding, but I tell u, d deception d enemy will bring is making that knowledge drive u to d place of teaching it prematurely and hence leading to shame when told to demonstrate it.

Jesus began to Do first before He Taught, he basically taught what He had prior lived out, that's why he could teach faith, cos He lived faith, He could teach giving,cos He gave. He could teach prosperity, He was prospering. He could teach the kingdom,He of course was living the kingdom!

Many of us gain knowledge that we haven't used and we anxiously want to pass it across without letting it work for us and instead of getting people blessed we get them confused cos we are trying to give what isn't truly ours.
 A wise man once said " ... You don't truly know it until it has worked for you". Knowledge not used isn't knowledge yet, it is just information in a sense knowledge format.

So this is my challenge to us all, we young folks chasing after knowledge, let that knowledge become your reality before you preach it.

*Black eyed peas* in a song asked this question which I think applies here, "Do you practice what you preach? "
I live you with that thought.

 *Selah*

         
                                        @CodedinChrist

True friend and Bonding

With respect the current political atmosphere around the country at this present time, I will therefore like to speak on politics. Lolz , did you fall for that? I was just joking. Now on a serious note.

Just about, some hours ago speaking with my very good pal, he told a story that actually ignited a desire to communicate some very profound truths in a special way. So as not to get a copyright suit from my friend, I will tell the story from a different angle.

The Akejus is a small family that lives in the southern part of Nigeria, Ibadan to be precise, and lived in an area inhabited by middle class citizens (if you are from Ib city you would have gotten the picture), they have three children, Teni 5, Moyo 7, and Femi 10. And they had Uncle B (as was normally called by the children) who lived with them and Femi loved him a lot, more than the rest of the kids. At that time, Femi spent time with uncle B and they played, he talked to him and uncle B really got excited and felt like he was just part of the family. Although he was adopted by the family when he was young, Femi's love and care never made him feel like an outcast. Femi showered on him liquid love and his younger sisters wondered what he really saw in him that made him just so fond of him.

Not until some events began to unfold. Teni reported to her Dad on a particular day that, uncle B had injured her intentionally and Femi opposed it saying uncle B will never do such a thing, he didn't need him to speak for himself but even though facts pointed otherwise, he still held onto their friendship and was bent on defending him no matter what. The Dad took notice of that incident but took no drastic action and time and time again, Moyo and Teni reported uncle B and since he couldn't defend himself none of what Femi said was heeded to and for his children safety, Mr Akeju got uncle B arrested on the charge that he was a threat to his little girls and Femi even though he (Femi) Claimed he (uncle B) was his best friend. Isn't it unusual that uncle B has been speechless concerning this issue when his life and reputation was at stake? Well its obvious that uncle can't talk , did you just ask why?
Oh oh oh!!! Did I forget to tell you that uncle B is actually a Dog. No? My bad, Its actually a dog, Bruno by name and the kids called him uncle B. You get the gist? So he was arrested to be killed on the ground that the girls had reported it been aggressive on several occasions and consequently biting them not knowing that it was actually playing with them.

Mr Akeju made sure that Femi was in school when he was going to carry out this plan to get rid of the dog to avoid any unnecessary drama and when Femi got back not knowing what had transpired he asked about the dog's whereabout all to no avail. The following morning Femi woke up to tell his parents that he knew what happened without been told. You see, this boy claimed he saw Bruno in his dream and it told him he had pain in its leg hence signifying that it had been killed. Even without the natural knowledge of the child his bonding with this creature was so strong that he knew that there was a challenge and that Bruno had been killed without him being told. If that is not bonding, then tell me what it is.

I am majorly speaking on friendship and commitment in friendship, but that story just kinda inspires the writer in me cos I see a lot of what people call friendship, which are just peripheral I.e. on the surface without any genuine bond or commitment whatsoever to each other. Friends who care less about how you are doing, a lot of friendships today are too shallow, surface and dry. I believe that commitment is the life wire of true godly friendship. God is for bonding in friendship when it come to the soul (I don't mean soul mate or ungodly bonding with convents) I mean a kind of friendship in which both parties are down together in whatever comes the way of one of the friends, sharing burdens, happy times and sad times, not just friends with a parasitic mentality of always taking but never giving, that is no friend but a pest. I always say this, friendship is a two-way street.

More about bonding; do you remember David and Jonathan? (I don't mean Ebele) lolz, dnt mind me. Those two friends in the bible, the bible said "Jonathan loved David as his own soul" (1 Samuel 18:3) , again if that's not real bonding what then is it? I so much believe that friendships are major foundation walls on which a great edifice of success in life is erected by which we cannot reach our place of destiny. Friendship on the surface does no one any good so that's why I believe that we ought to make friends that will make us, add to us, bond genuinely with us and go the distance with us in life.

Today, I urge you, if you have no such friend take a step to make a friend by God's leading so as not to choose wrongly, and when you find that one you can call a friend, bond with such and be true. And on a final note, just in case you have not known the ultimate friend i.e. Jesus, cos in him we see what true friendship is when he gave his life for his friends. That is some wonderful display of commitment don't you think? Experience the apex of friendships today, take that bold step to accept him and above all... Be a friend yourself and learn to bond with someone today in love.


Note* I didn't discuss everything about bonding, friendship and its principles, so I will gladly answer questions you might have concerning the subject matter.

Refuse to be bitter, Forgive

The following is a true life story which actually happened at a point in history.

Taylor Davids was a young lady of Jewish descent, in her late teens, who lived with her Dad, Step mom, and her step siblings, in their mansion in Louisiana, USA, back in the late 40s. Taylor's Dad was a senator of the United States, who played a major role in issues that concerned the nation during World war II and he was hardly at home due to his tight schedule. Her father had divorced her mum when she was five and after her mom's death two years back she had to live with her step mom and her step siblings owing to the fact that her elder brother who was in the military up front and was always on duty and wasn't always at home too.

Taylor was a beautiful young lady who had beautiful eyes and was admired by many young chaps around and she was sure to have a promising future ahead of her. she had always dreamt of  studying Psychology at Yale because as a young lady, living with her mum before her untimely demise, she saw people who had suffered from war's devastation, who had been psychologically affected and her good heart went out to them and she hoped she could help them one day. Her beauty was noticeable by everyone when she accompanies her Dad to various gatherings and one particular day she really caught the attention of James as she walked right out of the house with her Dad on their way to a party organized by a top government official to celebrate his daughter's birthday.

James was her step brother and all this time she had been around and he never knew she was this pretty, those were his thoughts. gradually as the days went bye, she became more beautiful in his sight and he desired her so much that he lost his appetite. He was madly, uncontrollably, irreversibly, in love with her and he wanted to have a feel of her no matter what it cost. His friend Josh knew he was in love and he told him; "all you need to do is shoot and kill yourself some wild catch" although he didn't say what he meant directly but James clearly understood what he implied and went for the kill as he was told.

Prior to that time, James had made some advances at Taylor which looked like a brotherly gesture so she was totally unsuspecting of his motives on that gloomy afternoon when he was going to carry out his plan. He had earlier told her that he had a medical condition that warranted help sometimes when he has the attack, and she had felt moved by his predicament and one the very day no one was home cos James and discharged the servants and Taylor was alone in her room when she heard a scream from the northern part of the house. In shock, she ran out to see what had happened only to hear more screams which appeared to be that of a person in deep, acute pain. James! She exclaimed, as all of her being found its way into the well orchestrated plan. As she stepped into his room, he was on his bed acting as though in pains, when she rushed to check him out, he turned and grabbed her by the arms and knocked her out.

Taylor woke up, she was in pains, half naked with blood stains on the sheets owing to the fact that she had just lost her virginity in a very brutal way. James became more aggressive and told her not to ever say a word to any living soul as he drove her out of his room and shot the door behind her. The young lady had a lot of emotions running through her soul has she dragged herself back to her room in tears; Anger, fear, hatred....were all she felt. As time went bye, she hated him more and not quite long James died in an accident while returning from a party just a month after that ugly incident. Taylor's anger grew into bitterness even after his death, cos even in death she refused to forgive him... What happened to Taylor after that???
        Well, did I tell you that it was a true life story? Oh yes! I think I did, it actually did happen, only that the real name of the young lady in question isn't Taylor and she didn't live in the late 40s,  she lived way farther than that, in the BCs to be precise, her real name is Tamar and oh yes! She was David Only daughter and she was rapped by her own step brother, Amnon. Have you tried to think of what became of that young lady? How would she have felt even after she was averaged by her brother, but to be frank, it still didn't stop the effect of the poison that the rape injected into her soul. I want to believe that after that rape, she was angry, she kept pondering in heart what he had done to her so much so that she became bitter.

Just like Steve Farar said ; "Bitterness, like a burning match, it only burns the one who holds on to it".

 I believe that due to the bitterness she allowed in her heart through unforgiveness, she became totally irrelevant and was not heard from again. I believe she had dreams she wanted to accomplish, goals in life but it was just put out not by the rape but ultimately by the bitterness she allowed it develop into. Someone said that to forgive is the most selfish act a person can do, and that's true cos you do yourself a whole lot of favor when you forgive cos offenders are heavy and when you carry them in your heart, that's way too much baggage that will slow you down in life and might even keep you on the same spot for a longtime. Are you angry due to a past hurt? have you been maltreated or you are currently being treated badly by someone and you are nursing a feeling of resentment in you heart towards such a person? I admonish you today to give it up, cos you won't do yourself any good if you get bitter. Let God help you perceive hurts in the right way and let him use them for his glory in your life and not let if destroy you. The wrongs done to you are not really the cause of your failure in life but how you reacted to them, Tarmar became an outcast in scriptures not because she was rapped but I believe it was how she reacted to it that made her obsolete.

Will you allow your experiences to make you better, or bitter? Make your choice today.
#Forgive


                                 @CodedinChrist

Submission for the Christian Lady

I have been speaking about the importance of societal right perception of the woman and also seeing sex and sexuality in the right view through the scope of God's word. It is important to know that the woman's equality in the society should be seen in the right context. I have mentioned earlier that she is equal with the man (both created in God's image) but that will be on a general level of human relations. Let me come out plainly, her equality as a person must be subjected to certain principle if she is married and that's what I will like to talk about in this writeup... Simply put, the principle of submission for the Christian woman in marriage.

I have never been married at anytime but this I know, Gods word is enough experience I need to talk on this subject matter, primarily addressed my sisters out there that will become someone's wife someday. Firstly let me give you the background for this discussion from God's word;

In 1 Corinthians 11:3 " But I would have you know, that the head of everyman is Christ; and the head of the WOMAN is the MAN; the head of Christ is God"

 (Had to capitalize the those two words as emphasis), now can we see an hierarchy there; God>Christ>Man>Woman. That's the chart of right  "bureaucracy" in a Christian union between man and wife. So what is submission? Let's me give you an extract from the teachings a man of God who has Gone to be with the lord but his words still makes the impacts.

Dr Myles Munroe : Submission means that a wife acknowledges her husband's headship as spiritual leader and guide of the family.  It has nothing whatever to do with her denying or suppressing her will, her intellect, her gifts, or her personality. To submit means to recognize, affirm, and support her husband's God-given responsibility of overall family leadership.

Now that's submission, to some ladies that might sound unfair but he went a bit further and let me pick out the words; "in biblical submission, it the free and willing subordination of an equal to an equal for the sake of order, stability and obedience to God's design", So that just drives my point home without a stopover.

 It was clearly noted above that the one submitting and the one being submitted to are but equals but it is God's design that for orderliness, the woman should be the one to do the submission. Why? Well is she not the bride? Think of it, is the church supposed to submit to Christ? (Now in the context of the Gospel) of course yes, why? Cos he is Lord! No doubt about that, he is our pride groom and we are his bride. Obviously, marriage is a type or a similitude of the union of the church and Christ, so in expressing this spiritual authority, the one who is the bride should do the submitting and who is the bride again in marriage??? You've gotten you answer.

The proper functioning of a woman in marriage can never be achieved if she is not submitted to the man as stipulated in God's word and this is a command that has nothing to so with whether or not the man is as loving as he ought to, you are just commanded to submit and if you don't you are malfunctioning to be frank with you.

Now as a single lady, you need to look well and know who you are to submit to, God has nt called you to be a slave to any guy and his Tyranny, that's why you need God's direction to choose the right godly man who will understand this submission in its right context and allow you express you God-given potentials without fear. You have no choice about whether or not you should submit, unless you want to become a celibate, but you do have a choice to choose who will be easier to submit to and will lead you not rule over you like an accident king of the heathens.

Submission is a must in marriage for the Christian lady, feminism isn't God's will for you, yes , you do have rights but in marriage you rights are in submission to your head. So for you single ladies, my advice is that you choose the right head that will fit just well, open your heart, shine your eyes and let God lead you.....

Pls drop your comments on the subject matter if you have any, and I will be pleased to respond to them.


                                 @CodedinChrist

She is a WOMAN

She is beautiful, gorgeous, pretty, lovely,  elegant... What more? Input the right words. She is not Sexy, cos that isn't right perception of her, she is not Hot cos she isn't a temperature, she isn't breathe taking cos she can't choke you, she is kind *smiles*.

Whether blue eyes with bright fair skin, or if its my Negro sisters with their dark skin and eyes like mine, brown or black, she is still beautiful and adorable. She is precious, a pearl worth more than a thousand stones, in simple words, priceless, invaluable. She is to be treated with care and love, treasured by a man with substance and God's fear, she shld be... Oh! She shld be cherished! Who is she?

Simply put; she is a WOMAN.

Got a little bit poetic above cos I really had to express how important this special creatures of God are cos over the track of time, the woman has been seen less than who she really is. The society has said she is a lesser being, she can't make her own choices, she is to be ruled over, she must be subjected to what a man says or what the norm dictates, well, in certain context she shld be but that doesn't make are less than a man, in fact, I believe she is equal to the man if not better in some respect cos last time I checked , men don't product other humans so the continuation of the human specie greatly depend on this so called weaker being. An Irony cos I see more of a strength in childbirth than weakness.

Religion is cruel on these wonderful pearl, I must say, cos when I look at every religion of the world including extreme religious Christianity, I see the woman objectified, she is told that she can't lead, she has no say and her life will be determined for her without regards to what she thinks. That's painful, cos the great abilities and strength put in this priceless soul will be silence by some rules put down by people who are clouded by their stereotypical mindset, which believe that she is weak and she should be treated as such, but;
         alas!!! With pain in my heart and angry in my mind as i write against this 'age-old' societal injustice, I say no! To this prejudice and unfairness, I say she has a voice,she has a potential that can bless her generation, she shld not be stigmatized, she should not be used, she is a treasure, she should be valued, she is equal to the man in the society, I see strength in her when she obeys God to submit willfully to her husband in marriage, her submission is not foolishness but the ultimate display of wisdom. Her strength is her uniqueness, she is lovable, she is all God has made her to be.

Who is she? She is a WOMAN!

#SayNoGenderPrejudice.


                                  @CodedinChrist

Realities and Fictions: A POEM

Can i write from heart?

Speaking the rhythms of my heart through the movement of my hand on a plain sheet

I am taking time to draw my emotions with words on this plan sheet

 Sometimes I just want to remain quiet, other times I need vibes around me to give sound to the silence within.


In other to resist the temptation of letting my crowded thought burst out as a flow of salty liquid, i will rather write.


Can they really see through the oblique show I present outwardly?

Trying to box in the confusion within, while I present an artificial grin outside so I tell them:

"All is well' when they ask me; "whats up with you bro?"

'Everyone has their own struggle' some may say but some times, its feels like mehn!...

a bittersweet experience altogether more like an irony, I think, more like hoping for the best while expecting the worse

A beautiful blend of good-evil balance, it all just sounds like pro-fallen Eden.

We are all quick to let our guards down, to surrender to the emotional captivity a fairy tale presents Always thinking it will all be smooth ;

You meet that lovely person, fall in love, you have a good life with kids running around as you walk beside a gentle tide at the beach, holding hands as the sunsets.

Fantasies, living a dream in the reality of your thoughts a build up from a continuous intake of Disney lies

more like thinking this is ME lies , I mean my lies.

 We often spend a lot of time wondering how we can make Disneyland a reality and we find ourselves lost in wonderland trying to navigate our way back into the reality.

I say to myself, like a polar bear, ‘wake from your slumber!' winter is long gone and now its summer’

Go and face life with a real grip of reality, holding firm to what is real

No fear of what is ahead, a couple of pot holes as I drift through the highway called life, I’ve got only one destination

 So this one is for all those who feel a weight of discouragement overwhelming them Thoughts of:

‘You can’t do it’ all over you like a gloomy cloud

You don’t need to seek refuge and fulfilment in false realities

You also don’t have to plunge into the pool of despair, look up, take that step, dream, desire and above all look onto God cos only him can make a divine Disneyland a reality in his abode ZIONLAND!


                                                                                                                 @CodedinCHRIST

Let Your Heart be fixed On him

Psalms 51:17 reads "The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: A broken and contrite heart, O God, thou will not despise.

I am convinced that God's expectation from every one of his children is not primarily an outward life of holiness but A heart right with him I.e Broken and Contrite. Before I go further let me clarify this; I am not advocating irresponsibly and outward lives of disobedience all in the name of " well, my heart is right with God" it will be an irony to say you have a right heart and yet you don't care about what God says as it pertains to your daily conducts; In words, dressing, actions...

Having settled that, I discovered while meditating on this issue that God's main concern has always been about the guy with the right heart all through out different dispensations and as such most people who seemly had a life of outright obedience outwardly where greatly used by God but where only relevant in their own dispensation.

Job for instance , was a man who obviously has an outward life of obedience which made him against all odds stick to God's promises even at the face of death and much sorrows but can anyone tell me of any other significant mention Of Job after his own dispensation?

Who else? Enouch, this man's life was so right with God that he was not allowed to see death, a 300-year consistent work with God, can you beat that? And apart from What Hebrews said concerning his faith-walk and Jude speaking of his prophecy of the end time, his relevance was limited to his own dispensation.

But I came to realize that the people who had more enduring relevance that surpassed their dispensation had really really questionable lives outwardly, let's pick a random name.
Jonah, he was specially mentioned by Jesus as a type of his death, burial and resurrection....

More specifically, Abraham and David, this two lived in times b4 the new covenant was enacted and yet lived lives of the New covenant.

Abraham was relevant in his time and will forever be relevant, even after his death, right there in paradise there was a place named after him. Dats xo Awesome don't you think. Why? His heart! God seeing this man's heart, through him promised to whole of humanity his Son (Jesus). Dat is an everlasting relevance which even made God's own son to be called to Seed of this Great man, and yet, this man's life was questionable to a degree morally. But God looks at the heart remember?

What about David? If there was anyone who should have not be used by God it was David, firstly he had so much blood on his hands and too many flaws which included sexual immortality and yet God said he was a man after his own heart. Do you know dat the throne Jesus will sit on when he comes back to reign on earth is David's throne? Can you beat that? Dat xo great a relevance, he was even called his son, making Jesus his heir . what distinguish this men? It wasn't their outward lives cos that was full of scandals but it was the heart.

My challenge for all you folks trying to be holy outwardly is that you need to change your focus, make sure your heart is truly for God and not just try to please him with your outward life of holiness but a heart that through is broken and contrite chasing the lord.
God is already pleased with you in Christ Jesus, faith his what pleases God and he has given you his Faith. Heb 11:6, 12:3.
Outward holiness without a heart true to God is just Religion, nothing more.

 So today what you shld focus on is setting you heart like a fleet on him and he will make you eternally relevant .
God bless......

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Ladies: Treasures not Tools

1 Corinthians 6:16-20(MSG)

There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-giv­en and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with an­oth­er. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.


There is no doubt that we live in a society which objectify women. Have you seen music videos of resent? If I am nt being mistaken, more than half of the most celebrated music videos on TV even the award winning ones are cruel cos they make woman objects of sexuality and selfish lustful pleasures and this ladies (video vixens) are used to objectify women as objects to be acquired just for sexual gratification. if u think I am being too unrealistic well tell me what comes to you mind wen you see that lady on TV with just her underwear on, is it 'I love Jesus?'. Lolz i'm positive its what I am saying. Well that's by the way....

If you asked the average man or the unmarried believer who believes in abstinence: "Why are you keeping yourself till marriage? " you will probably get this: "so that I can have a lot of sex when i'm married". Well that's an healthy thought, and again if you asked another believer like the above why he wants to get married soon, he will tell you that sex is the no.1 drive, that's if he will be honest enough to admit it. as good as that sounds , in its deeper observation you will see that a large percentage of guys, Christians inclusive sees ladies as firstly tools for gratifying their immerse desire for sex. Most of them are driven by their urges and thereby making women the tools to satisfy this desires.

Rapper and Christian; Andy mineo in a song said " the meaning of marriage is not Sex", and that shld be fundamental to us cos sex is just one of the activities in marriage. Marriage has a lot of descriptions, sex isn't one of them, but sharing is. In marriage sex is sharing, its is giving and receiving, in fact it is worship! Yes I said it, WORSHIP!!! God designed sex as an expression of a strong spiritual reality : fellowship, Communion. The above bible verse says it all. Let me go deeper now.

Do you know that the same way we understand our relationship with Jesus; I.e. the body of Christ being the bride of Jesus Christ is also being exemplified in marriage here on earth, making marriage a similitude of the church and Christ. So tell me what do husbands and wives do after marriage? The become one flesh (sex) , so will it be right if we also say the church and Christian being married also have sex? Become one spirit as Paul puts it (1 Corinth 6:16-17). U see how scared sex is now? it is a type of worship but in d flesh with deep spiritual implications. So what i'm I trying to say, if we have intercourse with God every time as we pray, worship and mediate on d word being his bride, will it be right if he is just the one using us and we on the other hand, getting the feeling of being used. As orgasm is the peak of sexual gratification so it is with God and man in worship cos in worship of God, we get a type of spiritual orgasm when we feel the deep presence of God and God on the other hand is glorified. That's Orgasm on both ends so shld also be sex In marriage nt just a man getting all d action and making the lady feel used.

So my advice to all xtain men out there is to perceive sex right and also in the right context, its one thing to abstain it is another thing not to objectify the woman you marry as payback for all your years of abstinence. Well this is just one aspect of objectification but there is more, ama hit you with more latter. Stay blessed.


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